SPENDING SOME TIME, DELIBERATELY, DAYDREAMING DOES WONDERS
This is a (13 minute) video of a woman, daydreaming about the future.https://archive.org/details/out_of_this_world
Honestly, everything is easier - if you've been through it before, like a dry run, or a walk-through. Whatever it is that you have always wanted to do, imagine that you have already done it. That is part of daydreaming, and it costs $0.00 (nothing, or no money at all). Just make sure that you're not driving, or working, at the time that you are actually daydreaming. Even if you try this just once, daydream that you're only remembering something that has already happened. Even if it was just a daydream, or a night dream- and then proceed toward your next daydreamingly musing thought, subject, project, or adventure. This has nothing to do with obsessing over something, because you have total control over your thoughts, your thoughts do not have control over you. So, that new project, adventure, or whatever, could be something that you have daydreamed about, dreamt, or have done in the past. Daydream that you are remembering it, and you are doing things better, or differently. Here are 3, different, analogies about this "deliberate daydreaming" concept: (Analogy #1) A marriage proposal has to be perfect, or close enough to perfect, and so, you have already imagined that your beloved has said "Yes!", and nothing has gone wrong - absolutely nothing; however, you also imagine that your beloved didn't say-"Yes!", but said something completely different, and you don't take it personally. You get on with your life- fall in love again, and you & your new true love drive to Las Vegas. While in Vegas, you catch a live show, where the Elvis impersonator, not only does a fantastic impersonation of Elvis, but also marries people (on stage), as part of his act. You marry your beloved right there & then, and live happily ever after. (Analogy #2) When I was in high school - I imagined that the guy, whom I had asked to the Sadie Hawkins Dance, said "Yes", but then his girlfriend got mad and everything went south. And so- I would mentally play out hypothetical situations; whereby, the scenarios would have favorable outcomes. By the time I, finally, had to choose, I chose someone compatible with me. Meaning that: the guy I chose, had no girlfriends, and there would be no possibility of jealousy drama. I remember that I had a great time at the dance, and then later- I daydreamed about who I was going to ask to the next Sadie Hawkins Dance. When the next Sadie Hawkins Dance came around, I was more confident about asking guys (plural, because some of the said no). It was fun to daydream then, and it's fun to daydream now. The best part about playing out the possibilities, and going with a sure & positive choice - is that (in my case) I have fond memories of having had some wonderful times, as a teenager. Here is a video example of a Sadie Hawkins Dance Proposal:↠ "Practice makes perfect", and that statement is so true. (Analogy #3) It was a few years after my TBI (traumatic brain injury), and as part of my therapy - I would walk to the park, near my home, in Rocklin CA. (where I resided at that time), and I would watch the neighborhood families playing in the park & on the equipment. Then later, I would be imagining (another term for daydreaming) that I was doing the same things, playing on that park equipment-being as agile & as confident as those children were being, and throwing a frisbee (like I knew how to throw a frisbee), because I had done those things beforehand (or so- I had daydreamed, or imagined that I had done those things beforehand). And even though, at that time, it looked complicated and dangerous to me, and I had no actual memory of playing in a park- on that kind of stuff, I daydreamed that it had already happened, as if I was just remembering it - even though I, really, wasn't remembering anything. Something inside of me knew - that I had done that, "playing in the park" thing, previously & elsewhere. Then- when all of the children, their families, and everyone else had left the park, then I played on the equipment, and I threw a frisbee around. It was actually hard work, more than it was play. It was like a workout. Like what these people are doing here, in this AARP photo.
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